Fathers & Finances

     If we look at The Family: A Proclamation to the World, it states that "fathers are to preside over their families in love and righteousness and are responsible to provide the necessities of life and protection for their families." This is a key thing to know in a family and in a relationship. Sure it's okay for moms to work and help provide for the family, but ultimately they are to stay home and do things with the kids, and around the house. They are responsible for nurturing the children and keeping them in line. When both couples work, the woman's work load increases by 35%. This means that couples aren't together as often anymore and things can start to fall apart. There is distance and there is also combat. We we start to resent someone it's hard to get close again. This is when the communication part comes in and helps to play a role. However if both are going to work and provide, they need to find a way to stay close and find that time to do things together. Go out on that date night, get a babysitter for the kids if needed and use that quality time to stay close and connected. Some may ask does it really matter that both are playing those roles? I want to refer back to the proclamation at this point when it states the roles of both the father and the mother. There is just something about the father being the primary provider for the family. I know that in my family both my parents have worked, but my mom was a stay at home while working because we have a hair salon in my house. Therefore she was always home and was able to attend to our needs when she could. I loved having her at home, and I always looked forward to seeing my dad as well after he got off work. It has been said that 11/12 people regretted spending their time working than with their families. In today's day and age it is so important to keep that family bond and stay close and connected with each other. Kids also tend to fare better with their mom at home rather than dads.
      When working, your goal just be to allocate your money and be smart with it rather than just bringing it all in. It's not about the amount you make and bring in, but it's about what you do with it and how you use it. Using it wisely can really save you in the long run if you allow yourself you only spend what is needed and be smart about where you spend it. It's so easy to just run out and spend it and then in the end you wonder where it all went. Work could also be a better form of recreation than play because with play you are competing. A job should never be a competition between people to see who is better, who is making the most, who is spending what, etc. It's never fun to work all the time, but if we find something we love to do and that's our job, then we should try to enjoy it and be grateful we have a job. When we work for something we are more appreciative of the end result than if it were just given to us. I know as a kid if we wanted something, we had to earn it. Things were never just given to us whenever wanted it. There was always something else in picture in order to have it. When you pay a child all the time to do something, and give it to them whenever, they do less and always expect it the the next time and the time after that. They feel entitled and believe they deserve it. If we teach them young that work is a good thing and it pays off, they are more likely to appreciate work later in life.